Friday, June 26, 2009

REALationships-Vital to Life

In these posts so far, we have defined what REALationships are and how to have one. They are an essential part of human existence, because we are designed to have them. We have seen that genuine REALationships are defined by interaction between people, and not merely interest or self satisfaction. They are based on commitment and trust, not love, though love is certainly a vital aspect of one and arises from the commitment made and the trust shared.

Life is made for relationship. Life without relationships has to be the greatest misery imaginable.

Think of those people who you know of that are grouches. You know, the ones no one wants to be around because they are miserable and desire greatly to "share" their misery with others. Are they the committing type, the trusting type? Generally, no. They WANT commitment. They WANT trust. They just don't want to GIVE it.

They prove what we saw earlier, that REALationships come from those who give more than they get. There is great satisfaction and joy in giving all you can. There is great dissatisfaction and misery in taking all you can.

If you are a giver, then I'd be willing to wager that the relationships you have are real, and you find joy and satisfaction in them.

If you are a taker, then I'd be willing to wager that you don't have any real relationships, any real friends in the world, and you are of all people the most miserable.

To have REALationships, and to give of your all to them, is life. It is truly living.

To have PSEUDOlationships, and take all you can, is merely existing.

Are you living, or existing? The choice ultimately is yours.

Which will you be, a giver or taker? Which do you want to be remembered as when you're gone?

I don't know about you, but I'm not interested in merely existing. I want to LIVE. I want to have life, and have it abundantly.


Laura V. said...

Wow Jerry. This is really deep. You really made me think and I think there is a lot of truth to this, especially the part about giving v. taking resulting in how real the relationships are. Thanks!

Cassie said...

Jerry I was reading this article today and it made me think of your posts.

Hope the link works :). Let me know if it doesn't!

Jerry said...

Thanks Cassie. Great article! It's nice to see these musings of mine are not way out in space!

Cassie said...

Nope! :) I guess you could say now that they're in fact backed by science.